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Hey there - I'm Melissa, but you can call me Mel!

I love the ocean, long walks in nature, books, travelling & cooking!

I'm an INFJ South African living in the Dutch countryside.
I have a cute, cozy home with my partner (also South African).

I'm a kick-ass change coach ready to help you overcome the fear & clear the confusion so you can thrive & transform through your transition.

#growthroughwhatyougothrough

I believe ...

  1. Being true to ourselves and fully expressing our uniqueness, our thoughts and feelings take courage. 
  2. Change and growth are part of life. We are always evolving and when we become comfortable and embrace our own metamorphosis, amazing things happen! 
  3. We all deserve to be free to be ourselves and let our light shine w/o worrying what others think. We are meant to each be our truest authentic selves and respect each other’s freedom and authentic expression. 
  4. By understanding ourselves, what makes us special and unique results in transformation. Not being afraid to show this side to the world because this is where our true power lies. Connection to self, higher power and your purpose.

Here's a short version of my long story ... because it's not really about me is it?

Around 2015 I began realizing that I was unhappy and my life felt disconnected somehow. My career wasn’t fulfilling and my purpose felt foggy. I was in a relationship where I felt unable to be the person I truly was or wanted to be. I felt stifled and that I couldn’t be authentic due to the fear of not being accepted. I felt that my personality, belief systems and values were all in misalignment. I knew I didn’t want the life I had, but I didn’t even know what I wanted. I just knew I needed to do something to change the situation I was in.

My friend recommended I see a coach to help me make sense of my relationship and what I wanted out of my life. I saw a therapist and a coach at the same time. My coach helped me to discover more of who I was, my values, boundaries and what I really wanted in love and life. Coaching helped me become a leader of my own life, and not let others define my path for me. The coaching experience helped me to start defining who I was as an individual and what I wanted to achieve with my life. It was exciting but also a very difficult time of self-discovery. Through coaching and joint therapy sessions, I came to the realization that I needed to make the courageous decision that would turn my world upside down, but one that would allow me to begin to heal and start living a life aligned with who I was at my core. I decided it was time to put myself first, embrace change, discover more of me and heal myself.

During a deeply painful and emotionally draining divorce, I spent a lot of time on my own, with myself, experiencing the pain and healing. I started searching for answers to more of my questions. After a year of internal reflection and healing, I was ready to enter the world again. I was ready to be the authentic, whole individual I now felt I was closer to becoming. I was ready to lead myself & others into their full potential.

I am now living on a completely different continent, in a new career & with a partner that is loving, accepting
- and we're busy building a family! 

And I've also learnt all of these lessons along the way...

Many more than one time. So I thought I share some of my biggest ones with you here (so you can skip over them yourself!)

2016 - STUCK, UNHAPPY & DEPRESSED

Lessons Learned: You can't change other people and they're not there to make you happy.  Being inauthentic and "people-pleasing" and as a result not being true to yourself, can lead to a life of stress, overwhelm, unhappiness & confusion.

2018 - FREE & MORE ALIVE

Lessons Learned: Asking for a divorce and leaving a marriage is one of the toughest things I've done in my life. It also allowed me to heal, embrace more of my TRUE self, and find peace in myself based on who I was and what I wanted. I finally began to feel "normal" again because I was not supressing emotions and feeling numb & lifeless.

2019 - "THE NEW ADVENTURE"

Lessons Learned: Wherever you go in life, you go with yourself. In other words, you can't escape YOU, your problems or your past. However, self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-assuredness can take you anywhere you want to go.

2020 - ONWARD & UPWARD

Lessons Learned: Change and growth will always be part of life, so best you get comfortable. Embracing the messy, often unpredictable rhythms of life allows you to move through the "lows" faster and with more ease.

What I believe in and the values I hold that make me the coach for you!

1.

FEARLESSNESS

The ability to conquer our fear and have the courage to take action

If you truly want to live a life you’ll love, you need the courage to take on the fear required to make the bold changes that’ll get you where you want. Change requires courage.

2.

AUTHENTICITY

Knowing exactly who you are and unapologetically being  you

Making the changes that will offer you freedom & fulfilment come naturally when you truly know yourself. Authenticity is who you truly are, not who you're living in fear as.

3.

GROWTH

Evolving your self, your beliefs and your life circumstances

Growth comes from change. Change comes from growth. When change happens, you are challenged to find new ways  of being & living because you have and are evolving.

4.

FREEDOM

Experiencing the peace and flow from following the rules you set

True freedom & fulfilment in life comes from truly living authentically & unapologetically. Being present in the moment and your higher self.

5.

RESILIENCE

Grit required to weather the storms because you know the sun will shine

Change is constant and when we learn to embrace it, we find more ease in the process. Change doesn’t have to be complicated and hard, it can be empowering and graceful.

6.

CONSCIOUS CHOICE

Making choices from a place of  higher self-awareness

True empowered and conscious choices first come from awareness first. Once we are aware it's easier to accept what we can't change & change what we can.

It's not the change we fear, but who we must become.

As William Bridges, an authority on change and transition said, "It isn't the changes that do you in, it's the transitions. Change is situational, transition is the psychological process people go through to come to terms with the new situation. Change is external, transition is internal."

This internal process is what allows us to fully accept and process the most difficult changes in life.

It’s time to make that change you have been thinking of for so long!

Change the Way you Show Up and Cope with Change!

and finally embrace what lies ahead! 

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